World Matters
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE BILL – Support and Protection for the Weak
By Mardey Ohui Ofoe and Wendy Prentice
My eyes read about the 13 stair case that was the distance I had to cover. It was on the 25th of December 1999, the families had just left after spending the holidays; my mother spent most of her time doing night work to keep the visiting family even, to keep issues undertone and to create a sense of togetherness and the so called family air around.
The morning of the 30th December 1999, my mother solicited the attention of my father, on the invitation of the family for the Christmas holidays. My mother’s concern was about the acceptance of guest into the house without her consent whereas she provided for the family, the school fees, hospitals, shopping, food and other bills.
My father did nothing, apart from being the so called head of the family. The decision to be irresponsible was not out of need, it was deliberate because my father earned relatively higher.
My mother after countless fierce arguments and struggles has decided not to engage in such interactions with my father. She had sealed all her senses. Such was their sexual relationship as well. My mother was practically captured and forced by my father in their sexual relationships as vividly as I could remember.
My father took advantage of my mother’s weakness to pretend that everything was well.
But on the issue of the Christmas visit by the extended family, my mother expressed the concern that she was not consulted, which she sought for an explanation. My father ignored her and turned as though he was leaving her, then he threw her on the floor and kicked her many times. She screamed, yelled and cried. Our neighbours came to her rescue and took her to the hospital. After critical examination, she was discharged. The doctor said she had developed a stress pattern that could trigger heart failure. My mother wanted to be called a good wife. She remained quiet and did not seek redress in any form. My fathers’ family had tried to speak to their son but such events continued.
My mother was a very humble, quiet, kind and hardworking woman. What she got in return was a way of life that allowed her to be beaten by a man because she was a woman. Should we allow this to continue? Today, about half the population of women in Ghana are suffering some form of violence, which is considered a way of life.
“How a country with over twenty million people who claim to be democratic could justify rape in a marriage, leaves much to the imagination”. Said Angela Aboagye of the Ark Foundation Ghana.
In this case you are one of the 20 million people, who can make a difference by giving women, men and children protection. You may join the domestic violence bill coalition by sending your e-mail to dvbill@yahoo.com.
The Domestic Violence Bill also called the DV bill is a state sponsored bill which is supported by civil society organisations. Women groups have made input and in their own ways carried out public advocacy and education on the bill. Among the sensitive issues in the bill is the marital rape, which creates the opportunity for both women and men who are continuously sexually abused like my mother to seek redress. That, if this provision is not maintained, then our legislatures will be breaking families and endorsing undemocratic relationships and peace. What kind of family can one possibly have when the parties in the marriage consent cannot be reached in sexual relationship?
What kind of nation can we have when fathers are not responsible for their children? The DVbill seeks to address all these and give an opportunity for the weak and the innocent to seek justice. How such a bill is not yet passed in spite of the frequent cases of domestic violence escapes my mind.
Is the bill is delayed? And the effects of gender violence downplayed because we are in a man’s world? And the issues raised are not mainly affecting men? Or is it…………………..?
Unfortunately, pursuing issues of rape, sexual harassment, not to talk about marital rape in Ghana needs the wearing of an iron helmet, elephant feet, an eagle’s wings and a guiding angel. Even to this point, the poor survivor does not have the legal framework to seek the justice that is more often than not delayed and denied.
Remember, we live in global village and a country such as Ghana is living in a global room. We are all at risk and will be affected by domestic violence directly or indirectly.
By Mardey Ohui Ofoe and Wendy Prentice
My eyes read about the 13 stair case that was the distance I had to cover. It was on the 25th of December 1999, the families had just left after spending the holidays; my mother spent most of her time doing night work to keep the visiting family even, to keep issues undertone and to create a sense of togetherness and the so called family air around.
The morning of the 30th December 1999, my mother solicited the attention of my father, on the invitation of the family for the Christmas holidays. My mother’s concern was about the acceptance of guest into the house without her consent whereas she provided for the family, the school fees, hospitals, shopping, food and other bills.
My father did nothing, apart from being the so called head of the family. The decision to be irresponsible was not out of need, it was deliberate because my father earned relatively higher.
My mother after countless fierce arguments and struggles has decided not to engage in such interactions with my father. She had sealed all her senses. Such was their sexual relationship as well. My mother was practically captured and forced by my father in their sexual relationships as vividly as I could remember.
My father took advantage of my mother’s weakness to pretend that everything was well.
But on the issue of the Christmas visit by the extended family, my mother expressed the concern that she was not consulted, which she sought for an explanation. My father ignored her and turned as though he was leaving her, then he threw her on the floor and kicked her many times. She screamed, yelled and cried. Our neighbours came to her rescue and took her to the hospital. After critical examination, she was discharged. The doctor said she had developed a stress pattern that could trigger heart failure. My mother wanted to be called a good wife. She remained quiet and did not seek redress in any form. My fathers’ family had tried to speak to their son but such events continued.
My mother was a very humble, quiet, kind and hardworking woman. What she got in return was a way of life that allowed her to be beaten by a man because she was a woman. Should we allow this to continue? Today, about half the population of women in Ghana are suffering some form of violence, which is considered a way of life.
“How a country with over twenty million people who claim to be democratic could justify rape in a marriage, leaves much to the imagination”. Said Angela Aboagye of the Ark Foundation Ghana.
In this case you are one of the 20 million people, who can make a difference by giving women, men and children protection. You may join the domestic violence bill coalition by sending your e-mail to dvbill@yahoo.com.
The Domestic Violence Bill also called the DV bill is a state sponsored bill which is supported by civil society organisations. Women groups have made input and in their own ways carried out public advocacy and education on the bill. Among the sensitive issues in the bill is the marital rape, which creates the opportunity for both women and men who are continuously sexually abused like my mother to seek redress. That, if this provision is not maintained, then our legislatures will be breaking families and endorsing undemocratic relationships and peace. What kind of family can one possibly have when the parties in the marriage consent cannot be reached in sexual relationship?
What kind of nation can we have when fathers are not responsible for their children? The DVbill seeks to address all these and give an opportunity for the weak and the innocent to seek justice. How such a bill is not yet passed in spite of the frequent cases of domestic violence escapes my mind.
Is the bill is delayed? And the effects of gender violence downplayed because we are in a man’s world? And the issues raised are not mainly affecting men? Or is it…………………..?
Unfortunately, pursuing issues of rape, sexual harassment, not to talk about marital rape in Ghana needs the wearing of an iron helmet, elephant feet, an eagle’s wings and a guiding angel. Even to this point, the poor survivor does not have the legal framework to seek the justice that is more often than not delayed and denied.
Remember, we live in global village and a country such as Ghana is living in a global room. We are all at risk and will be affected by domestic violence directly or indirectly.
